“I always look good and feel young”…. No matter my age….(I say with a smirk on my face) Thats why Joe Namath’s book is my favorite… “I Cant Wait Until Tomorrow Because I Get Better Looking Every Day,” And probably why my wife says to quit acting like a 3 year old. Good post Dr. Kelsey!
AMEN!!!
My little sister’s face turned purple trying to suppress laughter when one of her female students told me I looked good for my age. At the time, we were on the French Riviera in bathing suits. I looked around at the doughy bodies of the student’s 18 year old cohorts and mumbled, I look good for YOUR age. I try to keep snarky replies to myself, but the “for your age” crap got the best of me. So, I’m with you! No more “for your age” comments.
You’re right – there is more to looking good than physical condition. I could out walk, out run, out swim, and probably out lift, most of those students. Where they had me beat was an overall enthusiasm for life, a fascination with life, that is very energizing and engaging. (In contrast, I was soul-tired.) I think that is a skill or quality to be protected and cultivated as we get older because life is hard sometimes, or a lot of times, and the repeated friction wears down enthusiasm. (Well, at least for me.) It’s easy for me to get stuck there in my head, in the “life is hard” loop, rather than looking up with fascination. And, it is a whole lot easier to make it through life’s uphill climbs with a fascination mentality than an Eeyore mentality.
Also, thank you for having and citing the research to back your statements. I appreciate your dedication to this and all your effort. If the research you cite is on PubMed, I generally read the abstract.
I really liked your observation – “enthusiasm for life a fascination with life, that is very energizing and engaging”. I think of a life that is energizing and engaging as living well…actively aging. I’ll write about that more in other posts but some of the loss of enthusiasm is actually a loss of relevance. In other words, we get disconnected from life as it evolves, grows, expands, and we get stuck in our daily routines. We use routines to minimize energy expenditure but the routines can also keep us in a small (and sometimes shrinking) circle. One solution is to do new and different things…sometimes things that push the comfort zone….a lot.
Living well means staying relevant.
What do you think?
Hmmm, interesting. Relevance and routines – I haven’t thought about it like that before. I do hope you write more about that soon. I’m right there with you on trying new things. My job requires constant creativity, and when I start to feel dry the best solution is something new: new art exhibit, read up on a new subject, start a new project, backpack somewhere new. This weekend, I got a huge blank canvas and some paints and tried my hand at oil painting. I’ve never painted before – beyond walls. It was fun, and perhaps it was the fumes, but my brain is refreshed.
“Perhaps it was the fumes…” that made me laugh. Thanks for that!